If you’ve ever seen the movie, “How Stella Got Her Groove Back”, Stella’s answer to getting her groove back was a light-your-pants-on-fire affair with a gorgeous young guy.
If you were hoping I came to the same conclusion, sorry folks. This “ain’t” that kind of post 😉
How I Got My Groove Back
My solution is less Harlequin romance and more documentary- I focused less on me and more on others. I “got out of my own head”, if you will and instead of constantly thinking about what I needed, what I wanted (what’s the common denominator in those two phrases? Oh yeah- I), I started to make a concerted effort to think about what others needed and wanted.
Community Service is the Answer
For me, the answer to focusing on others is always performing community service. I was raised with the idea that it is your responsibility to do good things for your community. Whether that’s picking up trash, helping rebuild a playground or even just passing out flyers to advertise a community events, we all have a responsibility to give back to the community that supports us and makes our own dreams possible. Let’s face it, without that support, we’re nothing. I truly believe that.
I Needed to Focus Elsewhere Because I Was Seriously Down in the Dumps
Full confession time- I’ve been terribly uninspired lately. I mean ZERO motivation. No motivation to do anything, whether it’s work out, brush up on my insurance skills, read for both entertainment and to better myself, NOTHING. And something that is HORRIFYING to me- no inspiration to write.
Seriously folks- when I am uninspired to write, that is a BIG deal. This is the longest stretch of blah I’ve ever encountered. And it’s scary.
My goal has always been to publish one post a week. I’ve pretty much done this for 5 solid years. I’ve noticed my posts lately have hovered around every two weeks and this latest one is clocking in around 3 weeks between posts. Yikes. And trust me when I say this- I HATE not wanting to write. It’s as painful as cutting off one of my arms.
So I Decided I Needed to Focus Less on Myself and More on Others
I’m a proud member of the Bellefontaine Rotary Club. The Rotary International Motto is “Service Above Self.” I hadn’t been living that lately. So I decided it was time. I contacted our local Habitat for Humanity chapter to inquire if they had any projects they needed help with. Luckily, they were starting another house in our community. I volunteered our club to participate.
We committed to one month of work and I’m proud to report that every slot was filled for workers and for those who couldn’t physically do the work or couldn’t make the work days, they provided lunch for the workers. I have never been prouder of our local club. No complaints, they just showed up and did the work.
I showed up for my shift, not exactly certain what to expect. Let me tell you, I walked away permanently altered for the better. There were 4 of us and we helped remove some windows that unfortunately failed inspection, then moved on to installing vinyl siding.
Here’s the kicker– we actually had fun. We shared stories, got to know each better, but best of all, were helping to provide a home for a single father and his family. We weren’t thinking about how this could benefit us. We were totally focused on helping someone else.
And that, my friends, is the secret:
Do You Want to Get Your Groove Back? Then try the following:
- Get out of your familiar environment. It’s amazing how a change of scenery can alter your perspective.
- Focus on others and less on yourself. I love listening to other people’s stories. Often, those conversations provide much needed inspiration.
- Go get your hands dirty helping others. There’s nothing like doing the work to satisfy my soul and also provide